Yes, I would and do date outside my race but having grown up in the South and being from a minority background I totally understand why some don't. In my small hometown, it wasn't (and seriously still isn't) acceptable. You have to determine for yourself if it's worth it if you live in an area that will point fingers, belittle you, and yes folks physically harm you.

My sophomore year in college, the vast majority of the white girls of our athletic program hated me because one of the baseball players liked me. Some outside the program talked very openly down about the situation and I was warned to be careful. They knew nothing of me but that's how crap goes in many parts of the South. And the ignorance spreads like wild fire.

Children are also a serious consideration in these relationships. I think that you lose some of your strong heritage and of course bloodline as mixing outside elements dilutes the standard. This doesn’t, however, have to be a bad thing. Stews and gumbos (sorry to compare foods here) are so great because of the variety and mixture of ingredients.

Some do very well to actually enhance their different cultures and bridge that cross-culturalism and embrace the new unique perspective of bi-racialism. But many do not and products of these two backgrounds either have to search for their identity or choose one side more or less.

Evolution is great but the people who are creating these relationships need to keep their culture alive and relevant not just within themselves but in their children so that these kids understand and appreciate both sides even as society tries to force a one check box choice on them.

And let's face it, you have to look at that person and race is a major part of looks. So stop it with the race doesn’t matter crap. If you care what your dog looks like and you put a lot of thought into why you chose one breed over the other, you can stop pretending that looks, culture and race don’t matter at all.

I think the all whites are _____ all blacks are ______ all hispanics are ______ is the type of ignorant crap that has to be completely eradicated from our culture. B/c some/many whites aren't ______ some/many blacks aren't ______ some/many hispanics aren't ______.

If that's how someone chooses to date/love or not date/love someone it's shallow and they miss out on what a lot of good people have to offer.

~Nicee *L. Nicole
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Okay, let’s talk about being classless. If you don’t like the smell of the fish, don’t go fishing. You know before you even go to the pond that it will smell and you don’t have to stick your head under the water to figure that out.

So for those who don’t know -- coochie has an odor. Consider it to be the (semi)necessary evil. For some guys the stronger, or more natural, the better. For others this couldn’t be further from the ideal. In fact, soaking for a day in bleach and Victoria’s Secret may not be quite long enough for a few very particular men.

Now if she truly has an overwhelming reek seeping out, you can smell that stench without rubbing her down and sniffing your fingers. I can understand checking for anything out of place but the finger check isn’t the method. There is no subtle/cool/unsuspecting way to do it, so don’t.

I have come to believe that sniffing your food before eating it is just tacky. This remains true even when you are eating at the Y.

There are preparations that you take before you eat foods you know have naturally unpleasant odors. WASH IT. Further, if you think it’s bad or spoiled and will make you sick throw the shit away (i.e. don’t eat it!).

If it’s going to get you sick one way, it will likely get you sick another. I don’t quite get guys who are eager to f*ck someone (unprotected even) yet draw the line at eating it. Getting a tummy ache from digesting the skank is better than getting some nasty bacteria all over your dick which will eventually find its way into your blood steam.

Neither of the above scenerios is pleasant. But one seems to have a stronger consequence than another. If you can put your health on the line for it, certainly you can bare to smell it.


~Nicee *L. Nicole
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Okay fellas this one's [mostly] for you.
LEAVE THE SEAT THE WAY YOU FOUND IT! Seriously, I promise it isn't that hard.

I do agree that women should leave your thrown the way you like it at your place but when you are visiting a girls place or if you just want to be accommodating do it her way. The seriousness of leaving both seats up is much more serious than one lid down.

Imagine this: You have to use the bathroom REALLY, REALLY bad and you only have a few seconds to spare. We've all been there right. There are two outcomes usually:

• You notice the seat isn't the way you need it and now those few precious seconds seem like minutes.
• You don't notice the seat isn't the way you need it so you sit (or fall in) before you can relieve yourself.

Of course there always seems to be option C. With this option, both seats are down instead of up and if you don't notice, you use the bathroom on top of the covering. Quite unpleasant.

So be aware of what someone is used to and try to be considerate so that you don't put them in a uncomfortable position.

Hey, that wasn't so bitchy huh.

~Nicee *L. Nicole
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